For people who think that getting a divorce is equivalent to being happy, think again. A recent study headed by Ms. Linda Waite of the University of Chicago revealed that divorced people are not necessarily happier. Another more astounding fact which was revealed by the study is that 2/3 of the people who were unhappy with their marriages and almost on the verge of getting a divorce eventually said that they were happy in their marriages five years after.
Her team also found out that the majority of happily married couples had experienced extended periods of unhappiness in their relationships. The difference is that they stayed with the relationship and found out how to stop their divorce. Marriage is intended to bind the hearts and souls of two people together. It loses its meaning in the whole context of divorce.
There are several ways to try and stop a divorce. Listed below are some useful tips that one can use in attempting to stop his/her divorce.
1. Conversation is Salvation. Most conflicts turn into fights because of the lack of communication. Some couples only talk about errands and tasks. Keeping an open line of communication will keep the openness in the marriage and prevent hidden feelings which can spur serious emotional injuries.
2. No Relationship is Perfect. Economics teaches us that whenever we stick with something, we are always missing out on something. Divorces are usually driven by infidelity and third-party incidences. Remember that no relationship is perfect. Trouble between spouses is no excuse for infidelity, rather it should strengthen their relationship.
3. Seek Help to Stop Divorce. If all else fails and you have tried everything to resolve the problem between the two of you, seek help. There are professional marriage counselors who can help couples get back on the right track and stop divorces. There is no harm in asking for help. Remember that divorce has its repercussions as well as huge financial setbacks. But more importantly, it destroys a marriage and fully ends relationships. In the end, if there is more than enough love to go around, then it is possible to stop a divorce.
